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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents and my in laws have made some strategic decisions that have worked for them - both moved to Florida which has meant Xmas and spring break for us in warm locations and lots of time spent. My in laws also (and I realize this is cost dependent) have taken us on vacation every year …. I also rent a beach house every summer for my entire family … just some ideas![/quote]

This stuff does matter but is no guarantee of frequent visits. Sometimes people go into fields where this much travel/time off is unrealistic. Some peopel have huge wanderlust and don't want to dedicate so many vacations to visiting family -- they want to check places of their bucket list.

I think the single best thing you can do to ensure you see your kids a decent amount once their grown is have a good, respectful relationship with them. And many parents try to do what yours did without having that in place, and then are confused why it doesn't work. But if your kid doesn't enjoy spending time with you while visiting for Thanksgiving during college, it's unlikely they will want to spend a week at a resort in Jamaica with you later on. Or they might go because you're paying, but then avoid you the whole time.

Worry less about buying a retirement home in a vacation destination, worry more about respecting boundaries and being supportive without being controlling.[/quote]

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