Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)
Reply to "How do you stay married to an ASD HFA Aspergers husband? "
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous]If you see a counselor, it has to be someone well-versed and experienced in neurodiverse/neurotypical covers. There are videos on youtube from Grace Myhill that I found helpful. Agree with other posters you have to be very direct in what you want and when they are in a calm state. Typically, the neurotypical spouse has to manage a lot in the household because once they unmask at home they cannot handle more after work. If you have the finances, outsource what you can. Make sure to take time for your own self-care, therapy, and time with close friends at least once a month. Carve out your own life separate from your spouse and kids. To be honest, it sounds bad but having low expectations helps that way you're not continually disappointed. They often simply cannot due to their ASD/co-existing issues provide emotionally what a spouse needs. You either learn to live and accept it or move on. You may not be able to do much with your spouse, but energies should be focused on your child to get all the help they need to be as much of a functional adult as possible. You can break ties and split from a spouse but obviously with your kid that's much harder.[/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics