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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some kids are too smart for sticker charts and too self confident to give a hoot about time outs. Congratulations OP for your child is one of those special, exceedingly self actualiSd kids who is secure in his parents love and will probably easily be elected to positions of power by his peers.

Here is something that has helped me. I realized at that age, the kid wants more power/autonomy/control. Which is great! This we applaud in adults. And also, he is now big enough and strong enough that you have to negotiate. Gone are the days of the roly poly 18 month old you could pick up easily.

So what you can do is give him that power. You say, when will you be ready to get dressed? Now or in five minutes? Negotiate a time, get him to say yes, set a timer, let him know when it’s getting close “two minutes” and then when timer goes off you get dressed. If he hesitates remind him of your deal. Act like you, too, are kind of bummed out about the timer going off but a deal is a deal.

If he doesn’t want to get dressed, ask him what he wants to wear. “What do you want to wear? Show me.” Give choices, ask him to dress himself, treat him like the human being he is.

But even so, getting dressed is tough at that age. I am reminded of a quote from That guy from Fugazi who was asked in an interview, what is the most punk person you know? And he was like “my four year old when they don’t want to get dressed.” Truth. [/quote]

Thanks. I will do this tomorrow and report back. I would die to see a video of that fugazi quote![/quote]

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