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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
Some questions that popped into my mind that might help your decision: How often is there a family reunion? Have these family members met your littlest? How often do you travel? What if you were to go on practice mini trips to gear up for this summer trip? What if you were to convince your mil to come to you more often in exchange for this trip to see her? Is there a way to separate out the fact that this is an in-law function? In other words, assuming you have the same great relationship with your family and they wanted you to to make a similar trip to them, would you be similarly resistant? Finally, what does your dh want to do?[/quote]

Family reunion every 2 years.  Extended family has not met baby, but DH' siblings and their kids have.  We travel 1-2x per year, for a week at a time.  We have our beach trip in late june that may be telling but I'm afraid that will be too late to make reservations after that.  I would absolutely be willing to defer until we see how that goes if we think it is feasible.  MIL comes plenty - no need to have her come more, she's just bitter that we dont (she once said to my mom "when my kids were young we went to see our parents all the time."  my mom had to point out that she didn't work, so when she got home on sunday night totally exhausted she didn't have to grocery shop, do laundry, pack bottles, and get ready to go make a living).  I actually have done precisely the same thing with my mom, who has a big birthday this summer too, has been made well aware of what we are and are not willing to do and, having spent a lot of time with my kids, totally understands and is on board.  She has agreed to have her party at her home, 3 hours from here, at a time that works for us, and we get to plan our own accommodations.  DH is not a great planner.  He was actually in full agreement with me about what a nightmare this is (once I led him through it), but doesn't want it to be so and so is not being very constructive about looking for solutions or expressing his preferences.[/quote]

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