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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s a defense mechanism.  Kids say they don’t need friends  but it isn’t true. Introverts want and need friends too. All humans need friendship.  [/quote]

This is OP. This is exactly my worry. I am an introvert myself, so I get being reserved and not liking to be around a ton of new people all the time. But DD worries me when she talks about wanting to be alone, even as an adult (except for having a cat). She doesn’t even want a job that requires collaboration. If she doesn’t see the value of friendships and develop the social skills to interact with the world, I worry she really will end up a lonely cat lady whether she wants to or not. Maybe I’m overthinking it, but it just seems unhealthy to have a preference toward no interaction with the outside world beyond school. We do insist on extracurricular(s) so she has some social interaction outside of school, which she begrudgingly participates in.[/quote]

I think sometimes we forget how overstimulating and overwhelming school is for introverts, particularly the big ones around here. For 8+ hours everyday she is surrounded by people everyday, most of whom they don’t know or are not friends with. They get called on. They have to engage in chit chat in class, in the hallways, at gym. There are few spaces for them to sit and decompress (maybe the library at lunch?). That’s nothing like my day as an adult where I can at least sneak into the bathroom and sit there for peace. Our kids will be marked late.

The point is, it’s not super surprising then that she comes home wanting to be by herself for now and the future. Even my social DD gets burnt out on occasion at a big HS and tells me she plans to sit in her room with the dog for the remainder of HS. (She just recovers more quickly).

Does your daughter have 1-2 close friends? That’s what matters.[/quote]

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