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[quote=Anonymous] :x [quote=Anonymous]It’s a defense mechanism.  Kids say they don’t need friends  but it isn’t true. Introverts want and need friends too. All humans need friendship.  [/quote]

I agree with this. My dc can be like this sometimes.

We try and set a bare minimum of socialization effort I expect from her (it’s more about the effort than the outcome)

They do have friends that ask them to do things, but it’s limited. When I see a weekend they don’t have anything planned I strongly encourage them to make plans. I suggest specific things and people and make it really easy by offering to drop them off any number of places they may be interested.

I know fear of rejection is hard for dc so I always tell them it’s more about making the effort to socialize than it is the actual socialization. I want dc to realize that it’s ok to be rejected and that all friendships won’t work out. If you keep trying, move on when it becomes obvious that a friendship isn’t working, and aren’t afraid of rejection you will eventually find friends you value and enjoy spending time with. It has absolutely worked with dc. They started the school year floundering a little bit socially and currently have about 7 friends that they socialize with outside of school (mostly individually)

Both dc and I are introverts, and enjoy our down time BUT there is a level of socialization that we both require. I have seen major strides in dc overcoming fear of rejection and putting themselves out there. They absolutely don’t need a ton of socialization, but sticking to the rule of socializing at least once a weekend (if it’s a busy weekend with activities the making plans expectation goes out the window, it’s more for when there’s too much time sitting home doing nothing).

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