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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If roles were reversed I am sure he would be there for her.  [/quote]
Maybe. Maybe not. This lady is 85 and while you say your FIL has been there for her in somewhat similar circumstances, for one I'm sure he's probably larger than she is. My mother's second husband was much older and while she did nurse him til the end, even in her late 60s it was very, very physically difficult for her to deal with him once he really began to fail simply due to his size. And that's without accounting for the emotional strain.

I'm with others who say be glad they have had so many good years together AND kept their accounts separate, which they undoubtedly did at least in part because they wanted to respect each other's kids' inheritances. Two people in their late 80s or 90s can't really be expected to take care of each other the way younger people can, that's just the reality of the situation.[/quote]
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They have separate finances and homes, which is probably to their adult children's benefit.  You sort of can't eat your cake and have it, too.  But in any case, a woman in her late 80s is not a plan for caregiving, no matter how much she is or isn't willing to do.  [/quote]

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