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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]She might not know exactly what you’re getting at?  If you’re not otherwise close, she might think you’re fishing.[/b]

In general, it sounds nice and thoughtful, but having accidentally bumped a hornet’s nest with my SIL, I now know my intentions don’t mean squat compared with how actions/words are interpreted.[/quote]

This is an incredibly sad way to treat people who are just trying to be nice. My SIL does this so I just dropped the rope and stopped even trying. [/quote]

I’m the PP.  My SIL misinterpreted a casual remark and hasn’t spoken to me in years.  I still have no idea how she got from “thanks, that’s a great idea” (the text in question)  to being so hurt and insulted (her words via my sibling) that she decided that she would never speak to me again.  So, yes, I am completely paranoid about my well-intentioned words and actions being misinterpreted.  [/quote]

NP.  It’s possible she thought your reply was sarcasm and a put down of her suggestion.  It can be really hard to tell from just a written sentence.  People she associates with may use the phrase sarcastically so that’s where her mind likely went.  Maybe they’re big Star Wars fans — there’s a similar quote in the garbage chute scene.[/quote]

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