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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So sorry sounds a bit more like sympathy / condolences than an empathetic response to hearing their child is unwell.

I would have said something like...I heard Son's name isn't well. Can we send you / drop off a few meals this weekend? Maybe Friday about 5:00 if that works for you? Thinking of meals is always something I find hard when I have a lot on my plate. If that would be helpful, let us know - or anything else we can do as well.

I don't think your text was overstepping but you didn't offer anything or ask a question so it puts it on her to think of what she needs to say back and she needs to put her energies elsewhere. Saying a thank you and being appreciative that you feel sorry for her feels weird. [/quote]

They live nowhere near us so I just wanted to reach out and I thought it would be weird to offer to "do" anything from four hours away otherwise yeah I would have done that. I didn't want to ask a question and seem prying. I just wanted to show support. Oy[/quote]

Why is is weird to offer to do anything from four hours away? People do things all the time for family who live at a distance. You can order just about anything online. And I didn't mean ask her prying questions about her son's illness. Just a question - as in above - would 5:00 work - gives her something to respond to.

I think your intention was to be supportive but to me a text saying you feel sorry for her isnt all that supportive when you have an ill child. it isnt an easy text to respond to. You have reached out, she knows I am sure you meant well and are thinking of her. There really isnt anything for her to say in response.
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