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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem a bit dramatic OP[/quote]

More than a bit. She sounds completely histrionic.[/quote]

World has been labelling anguish of women as histrionics for ages but times have changed, we need to understand the root cause of the reaction.[/quote]

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Thank you, PP, for calling out the post you're referring to -- it's pure misogyny to dismiss a woman's complaints with "she sounds histrionic" or "she's a drama queen." Another PP above is saying the OP likely is dramatic due to hormones. All such misogynistic crap and so outdated.

We do not know the OTHER examples OP hasn't given, and there surely are more -- she picked one example and of course people here are picking that apart as if it is the only example of any problem at all. She even says clearly that it's one example. She does not owe us strangers a novel with every instance of how her DH has chosen his family of origin over her and the famiily they supposedly have created together.

To the OP: The part of your post that leaped out at me is that you are concerned about what happens if he has partial custody. Believe me, he will end up taking your child (children? Just one?) to his family as often as possible and you have to be prepared for that. In your shoes, I would immedately start looking for an individual therapist for you, alone, to start working on why you chose him, why you ignored or blew past red flags, and how to navigate your current life. I am not saying to stay or to divorce, but first you need to get an objective, outside eye on you, yourself, and what you can do and what you're not responsible for doing, in the current situation. You may end up deciding it's better to divorce and be a good influence on your kid 100 percent of the 50 percetn of the time you're with her, rather than having her around two parents, neither of whom is happy and one of whom denigrates and blames the other while elevating relatives who behave poorly. Or you might, with therapy, see other ways to cope and regain whatever you saw in the marriage that was worthwhile.

Also: please, please be sure you have your own support system that is close. If not your own family, then friends you truly have bonds with and can turn to either to vent (though friends are not your therapists!) or to help you out with things like looking after your child so you can get to therapy or just get time to yourself. You need a support system that is yours, whether you leave or stay. [/quote]

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