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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you for the documentary and article links! All feedback is much appreciated.[/quote]

You are welcome! One thing I got from the documentary was the information that, for hoarders, they seem to have a connection to objects the same way they (and others) have connections to humans.  Like, the same part of their brain lights up when they think about separating from their objects, as would light up when you think about separating from someone you love.

So asking them to get rid of their "treasures" is deeply offensive to them. It's like someone came and said you need to get rid of your child, or a pet.

And it can explain why it may be easier for hoarders to relinquish their hoard, when they have a sense that the objects will go somewhere they will be appreciated.  So, they will be horrified and traumatized if you take their stacks of old newspapers to the dump. But if you can tell them you are taking them to an archivist who will carefully preserve them, and appreciate them for the treasures they are, they will be OK with that.

Your husband may not be that far gone yet, that he is hanging on to garbage and calling it "useful" but if his hoarding tendencies are left uncontrolled, that could be where he is headed.[/quote]

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