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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was just ruminating on how I no longer find DH attractive at all since he gained 25lbs. I have tried to play mental games around this but I cannot force myself to be sexually attracted to someone whose body is now objectively unattractive. I love him, but I simply do not want to do it with him. At all. He’s a good guy so this bothers me. He is probably the least handsome and fit man I ever dated, but he was decently slender and sexy when we met. He’s let himself go and I know it’s hard because he works hard, but attractiveness is a priority for me. (Yes, I am still fit.) I don’t know if I just suck it up with the lights out for maintenance sex, but it’s depressing as hell. I cannot initiate no matter how I try to psych myself up. I’m sad about it. Hoping he’ll fix things. [/quote]

25 pounds is nothing. I'd tell him in your shoes. He can sneeze and lose this weight. It's such an easy fix that he should not be offended if you told him since its affecting the sex. He too would enjoy better sex.

And no, to the pps who would ask if the same advice would apply in the reverse scenario. It's not the same thing with women. Its much harder to lose weight and we are very self concious about our weight. It will actually make our desire disappear if you mention our weight. Men don't need to feel beautiful to get turned on. We do.
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