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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went into having kids thinking I definitely wanted 3.  I am the 3rd kid.  It just felt right!  People who stopped at 2 were weak, in my mind.

I stopped at 2 because I found myself overwhelmed!  Apparently my own mother is crazy and has a 6th gear I do not seem to have.  2 is plenty!  I adore them.  If I could have added a 3rd child that started at age 4, then I would have.  But no thank you to another pregnancy/infancy/toddlerhood (HELL NO).  3 year olds are awful.  Do you have one yet?[/quote]

Op here. This is exactly how I feel. Mine are 4 and 1. I love to them to death but my 4yo is incredibly draining. [/quote]

Also I come from a larger family as well and am the baby. I love the dynamic of multiple siblings. Just yesterday I had an argument with one of my siblings and I loved being able to turn to the other sibling. I think it is really nice for the kids. Just so hard as parents to do it all.[/quote]

OP, if you REALLY want a third kid, what are you able to cut back on in the rest of your life?  How you can streamline?  Keep in mind that at least one of the parents needs to have pretty good executive function to manage older kids and the schedules, etc., of having three in school.  Homework, school events, blah blah.  I don’t overschedule my three at all, and I don’t attend every school event or read every email they send.  But kids still need things like check ups, an activity or two, friends, and that becomes a lot.  I have found the benefits of three is that we don’t *need* to find them playmates - they mostly play well together - and we also have the expectation that they’ll play with whomever.  We don’t get into the matching of friends and playmates the way some parents do.

My oldest is the toughest of our three, so I get the exhaustion you feel.  God, when she was four… I shudder to remember.[/quote]

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