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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually think the only problem with their request is that most of them are ongoing commitments, which dies turn it into an obligation. A more specific and discrete gift of time seems more reasonable to me. Like “I’d like to take a trip together to visit this place we used to vacation at when you were kids.” Or “I’d like to do high tea at this fancy hotel with the grandkids.” Then the gift can be arranging and scheduling this specific experience, and once the experience is over, the gift has been “received”.

Asking for time on a weekly or monthly basis as a gift just seems like a passive aggressive way of complaining that your kids don’t spend enough time with you.[/quote]

I agree with this. I have no problem with gifts of time and enjoy receiving them myself (e.g. a night of grandparent babysitting is way more valuable to me than a random sweater that I may never wear). But I think the "reasonable budget" expectation is in play here for time as well as money. It would be totally out of bounds to ask for a vacation as a financial gift in our family, and that also seems like an over the top time ask. I think a time gift should be a one-off commitment that doesn't require an additional large financial or PTO investment, like something you could do on a trip that's already planned or likely to happen. [/quote]

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