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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - that's just it. Its our chance to buy big ticket items that really help them out. Like, a dining room set or something like that. 
It wasn't done for us and we could have used the help, but we did it ourselves. 
My kids are all in good, stable jobs and aren't deadbeats or anything. [/quote]

I don’t spend for the sake of spending and don’t match numbers or dollars for the kids because some years there’s nothing they want or need. That being said, I’d definitely do what you do. This year, for my oldest (mid 20s with a good job), I think we spent $180 on something he really wanted. For middle kid (early 20s and working but struggling) about the same amount for something really wanted plus I also got him a sweatshirt and stuff for coffee - syrup sort of thing because he loves that. Youngest is still in HS so it’s different.

As for trips, it’s so rare that we can make the time but on those rare occasions, we pay. It makes me happy when we can go places together and I don’t mind paying.

In my family of origin, we got like $50 for Christmas, nothing for birthdays and no trips. ILs give us $100 at Christmas and expect us to pay for trips, which is fine. Just mentioning it because we’re very different than our families.  [/quote]

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