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[quote=Anonymous][quote=[b]Anonymous]We have no relationship with our in-laws. In fact, DH called his Mom for the first time in 3 years because [b]she sent me a bunch of gifts (out of guilt - I'm pregnant with our first child due in a few weeks[/b]) and he thought she was experiencing early dementia. Our lives are so much better without these people in them. We would spend the holidays with them and basically hide in our rooms like teenagers and be the first ones to leave to go home. My DH is awesome in that he never makes me be involved with them if I don't want to. His mother is an expert in being passive aggresive, his father is emotionally unable and his siblings act like distant cousins. DH didn't realize he had no real relationship with any of them until after he met me and spent time with my family (who love him so much). There are MAJOR issues to deal with on his side, and his family discusses/deals with none of them. Just typing this makes my blood pressure rise. We will have to see them for a wedding in a few weeks. Lord help us!

A long time ago, we made a conscious decision that family is what we want it to be. I have an Uncle that has been accused of molesting one of my cousins years ago. Does this man deserve the title of "family?" Not to me - he's a dirt bag piece of shit that I don't talk to and will never see again. That is an extreme example of course, but my point is you don't have to have toxic, horrible, negative people in your life just because they are "family." Family is a status that is earned through love and mutual respect. Just my opinion.[/quote]

How can you make the determination that the only reason she sent you gifts was out of guilt?  With you gnat size brain and heart, have you even considered that this is her way of trying to reestablish a relationship?  No, I think not because you are an even bigger bitch than she may be.  You are also an idiot as "family" is not earned, you are born into a family.  Your children have to earn your love and respect.  You shouldn't even have a puppy or kitten, let alone an infant.  God help this poor, innocent child you are bringing into this world and I hope there is a neighbor, teacher, or someone who will be a good role model every child should have.[/quote]

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