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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same situation. No relationship with inlaws. They haven't seen my DC or myself in 3+ years.

I haven't lost a minute of sleep over it from my DC's perspective. DC is not missing one single thing by not having a relationship with these self serving, manipulative, nasty people. DC has a wonderful life filled with parents, extended family and friends.

I do feel a bit guilty for my DH who seems to have a minimal amount of distress associated with it.

Of course, I am thrilled to not have the stress associated with their unreasonable demands and opinions. DH and I hardly ever fight anymore and life is so much calmer. I admit that DH was mostly to blame for never sticking up for him, DC or myself. But, I'm just happy to be free. Even if that is only temporary. Enjoy it while it lasts.[/quote]

NP here...I relate so much and found this helpful since we seem to be moving in this direction. When they declare us dead to them it is bliss, but when they try to re-enter and we decline it pains me ONLY because my husband is conflicted despite all the abuse he has endured from them. I am so sick of the cliche about not depriving the grandkids for their grandparents. My kids have grandparents who treat them and their parents (us) with love and respect. My kids are scared of my in-laws and frankly so am I. They don't want to see them nor do I, and usually my husband doesn't want to either. We want our kids to learn that it is not OK for people to be nasty to you which is basically all they see when we are with the in-laws. Being a grandparent isn't a "right" it's a privilage. If you are abusive, you don't have a right just by blood to have certain things. Treat us with respect or go away!![/quote]

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