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I'm wrapping this up. Good insights from all posters. Going to bed.

Some outstanding stuff was mentioned.

1. I'm sorry my post was so long. I agree it has way too many unnecessary details. My culture is high context, so many times I forget to edit. My bad.
2. I realized in America, it is called second cousins; in my country, my cousins' children are my nephew and nieces. 
3. [b]My dad was not invited to my niece's birthday party.[/b] Maybe because they expect him to come with us. I asked him to come with me, and he said no, thanks.  My dad is someone wonderful, but like anyone, he has flaws. He may need more emotional intelligence and he carries baggage. Please note that cousin B, his wife, and my niece did not attend my son's birthday party when they were specifically invited (my niece and nephew were the only children invited) because they had "other things" to do. This is what created the reaction from my sister and dad. I didn't have to say anything. It is well known in our family that we drop everything for each other's family birthday parties. For example, my sister, parents, and I paid for hotel rooms when we had to travel to my nephew's 2-hour birthday party. 
4. I am ok with my own social circle. Our weekends are packed, [u]yet I put family/blood first[/u] before friends when needed. Last week, we had three dinner parties and kids' activities. This Thanksgiving, my parents, sister, her family, and my ILs will be together. We are VERY CLOSE. Next week, I am hosting another dinner party and a brunch for friends and their children.

Again, thanks for the clarity. Even the judgmental responses. I needed to hear it all. It helps when someone else points out what you are not seeing. I guess I needed a different point of reference outside of my culture. Like I said in the previous post I am starting to be at peace with all.  The article shared helped, it is a little bit more over the top than my case, but the answer was so on-topic!

I take with me the following.

[u]Say to yourself “I did the best I could to have the relationship I wanted with them; it just wasn’t meant to be”  Grieve if you need to. [/u]
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