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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I moved back because of family; I guess I created a fantasy in my head that the three little cousins would become close. My son has a younger sister. My nephew and niece don't have siblings. This is it; this is the only peer group they have at this age. No other cousins from my spouse's side.  It still hurts that I prioritized my cousin B and his daughter, and I get no reciprocity. Cousin B hangs out with cousin A and his sister. I don't know if this matters, but my sister is invited by cousin B's wife to their house. My sister thinks the wife is weird and felt it was wrong that they didn't come to my son's Birthday party. She won't meddle, which is fine. My dad, on the other hand, is very hurt (he was close to cousin B) and wants me to cut them off. He won't go to my niece's party. [/quote]

You are expecting a lot of your cousins and their children (who would be your kids' second cousins, not your niece and nephew). Yes, I think you did yourself a disservice by creating a fantasy in which your cousins' children would be close to your children. It's great when that happens with friends, or fourth cousins, or first cousins, but it's not something you can count on, even with sibling relationships! By the way, since the children are already 8 years old, I'd be prepared for even less closeness between the children in future years, since the kids will gravitate even more to friends of their own choosing. If your families are not naturally close, with all the parents on the same page in terms of wanting to develop the kids' relationships, I think you should have low expectations.[/quote]

Thank you for the answer; this is very wise. I was also thinking the same. We are at the beginning of the end. What I had in my childhood wont' be recreated. And I am starting to be at peace with it.  [/quote]

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