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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do neither of ever see your mom? It sounds like she is engaged in fantastical thinking. Your sister will be pregnant without a baby and you will be no pregnant but with a baby and your mom isn’t supposed to know? Best practices is to tell children who were adopted their origins, so you need to navigate that.

The legal part would be easy if both birth parents consent. I think, however, there is a lot of emotional baggage; is she in a healthy enough state of mind to consent and be ok with that decision forever? particularly since she’s your sister so will see this baby grow up. I would suggest counseling for all of you and if she wants to move forward that is great but be prepared that she does have an opportunity after the birth to change her mind; the time frame varies with the state. For maryland it is 30 days. Good luck to all of you on making the best decision for the child and all adults involved.[/quote]

Our mom lives on the other side of the country. Because of finances they don't see each other very often and [b]I cut my mother out of my life a few years ago. [/b]I I'm in virginia. Thank you for all of your suggestions I think that counseling for everyone is a really good idea [/quote]

OP, do you go to therapy? Do you have other children? What does your spouse think? There are so many things to consider here and I think that this is too big to try to talk through without professional help. These kinds of decisions are life altering. You want to make sure that whatever choice your sister (and you) make, that you have support to help you there, so that you don't end up harming the relationship with your sister, or the baby.

How old is your sister? Is she healthy? Has she been getting prenatal care? Can you help her access that? Does she have a therapist? [/quote]

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