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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can do it. You just need to put all systems in place where if PPD creeps in again, you can just jump right in to your safety net. Friends and family for babysitting, doctor with prescription ready, a therapist you like, household tasks outsourced, good dynamic between you and DH.[/quote]

You can’t control for sleep. Sleep deprivation is a major cause of PPD and perinatal mood disorders. You can do things to stack the deck in your favor but st the end of the day you cannot force an infant, toddler or child to sleep and some kids are just terrible sleepers even if you do all
The right “things.” Are you ok taking that gamble? [/quote]

You can formula feed so your partner takes care of some overnights and/or hire overnight help a few days per week. This combo worked well for me. Obviously being able to hire help is a privilege but it does address the lack of sleep. [/quote]

This.  The idea that only you and your boobs can deal with an infant is false.[/quote]

Yes but sometimes women end up with a husband or partner who pressures them to nurse or doesn’t want to get up in the night because the wife stays at home and they are the one working outside the home, or a baby who only wants mom, or a baby with colic, or a baby with allergies who can’t use formula, etc.And some kids just are terrible sleepers. Sometimes children with special needs or autism (something you don’t always know about in advance) can wake multiple times a night. And yes, you can do things to stack the deck in your favor for an easier postpartum time with lots of sleep but there are no guarantees.  For example,  I ended up with postpartum PTSD from an unexpectedly traumatic birth and had difficulty sleeping at night because of flashbacks. Then I had a child with an unexpected health condition who woke multiple times at night. And we couldn’t sleep train because we were in an apartment and had multiple noise complaints from neighbors with our baby screaming. Each baby is a gamble. You can’t plan for everything. Sometimes you just don’t get the sleep you need as a parent and you have to deal. [/quote]

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