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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is 6 and often says rude things to adults who she perceived as breaking the rules. Or sometimes she corrects adults (strangers) who she thinks are getting facts wrong. For example, if we are at a museum and she overhears a stranger saying something about an exhibit that she knows is incorrect, she will beeline over to them and correct them. Often people look puzzled but let it go. Sometimes, though, people get super offended and angry. They don’t know she has autism. They think she is being sassy/bossy/smart-alecky/back-talking. I don’t like telling an angry stranger, “She has autism.” I think I’m concerned that their reaction will color how she sees her autism, and their reaction is unlikely to be good at that moment! They are already angry! But I want to be able to say SOMETHING to let them know she is not disrespecting them; this is just how her brain works. Do you have a phrase you use in situations like that?[/quote]

Why aren't you stopping her from beelining over to an adult to speak to them and correct them?  The issue here is not the ASD but that you are not helping her to understand that her behaviour is inappropriate.  ASD is not an excuse for this, it's a reason for it and you have to help her learn appropriate ways to interact with people. [/quote]

Exactly. I get that this is not easy, but you have to try.  You stop her every time and say "we don't interrupt strangers Larla." You model correct small talk and you call her attention to it.  You praise her when she does it appropriately.  My DS actually asks me questions like "is it my turn to talk now? What should we talk about?" lol.  [/quote]

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