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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Six is too young to get this, but when your dd is older, you’ll need to coach her on thinking before she speaks, because she can follow her impulse never to let other people’s mistakes go or she can have friends, but she can’t have both.[/quote]

No, [b]six is absolutely old enough to learn not to talk to strangers like this[/b].  It's not about the content of what she's saying, but that she's interrupting/disturbing strangers.  We don't do our kids with autism ANY favors if we let them engage in this kind of boundary crossing in public with strangers.  As they get older the consequences get higher and possibly dangerous. Things that are cute when a toddler does it (like unsolicited hug) become assaults when a big tween does it.  [/quote]

It's a lesson to be taught but since generally children with ASD/ADHD are several years less mature than NT kids, they probably won't learn it as soon as you want them to.  [/quote]

I'm not sure why you think this.  They can be taught not to do it if you make it into a goal and implement it in the right way.  Maybe OP is describing something that is a rare event, in which case, not a big deal. But if a kid is routinely acting in an unxpected way towards strangers in public, this needs to be addressed.  [/quote]

At what age did your impulsive ASBD child master this skill, pp?
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I don't let him talk to strangers like that, so he's never had this issue. But he has other issues with behavior in public and we work constantly on how to interact and behave in public with the goal of him being independent by 13 or so.  I'm not sure we're going to get there but it is a big priority.  Independence and ability to function in public ought to be a goal everyone has and works towards.  Using autism as an excuse to others isn't right - it fails to teach your kid AND violates their privacy.  [/quote]

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