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[quote=Anonymous]Distance helps, but with a caveat.

We see the closest parent a few times a month, for an afternoon or a quick overnight.

We see the farther parent that we get along with 3-4 times a year, for a few days at a time.

We see the totally dysfunctional parent who lives across the country about twice a decade.  Usually just get together at a restaurant for dinner when we happen to be in their town for other reasons. Haven't had a multi-day visit with that parent in about 20 years.

So the trick is to avoid falling in to the trap of spending a whole week together, because it's a long trip and you only do it once a year.  I find short frequent visits to be less invasive than spending a week in their home, or them in mine.  Our relationship with parent #1 actually improved when we moved closer together, because we can keep visits short and sweet.  But there is no way I could handle more frequent visits with parent #3, and they would be totally overbearing if they lived nearby.  Parent #1 is ok with giving us some space.[/quote]

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