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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it would be a lie to say you haven’t had a drink in a month.  The fact that you feel a need to lie about it your drinking is a red flag, even if you managed that one drink without obvious issues [/quote]

It's this kind of black and white thinking that discourages people.

Unlike the OP, I had/have a drinking problem. I can't tell you what a relief it was when I was trying to go alcohol free to be told if I cut back to 10 drinks a week vs. 30 drinks a week that I shouldn't discount that because it was progress. Not my goal, but progress. And to keep coming back and working on the program I am on. The point is the learning. I'm on day 28 with no drinks at all now.

OP, what is your goal? Is it to rarely drink? Only on special occasions? Two a week? Or none? I'd frame your behavior around your goal. And your goal can change over time. If nursing one beer in 30 days leads to a progression back to everyday drinking then you may need to reassess, but that doesn't sound like where you are at.

Kudos to you!

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Respectfully, I think you are the person who is engaging in black and white thinking. If OP has to pretend that 1 drink = no drinks in order to feel good, then that's black and white thinking of a different sort. Everyone said that OP is doing great. It's not even clear that OP wants or needs to stop drinking entirely. If you are trying to stop drinking and you go from 30 drinks/week to 10 drinks/week, that is fantastic. However, if you have to pretend that 10 drinks = 0 drinks or it doesn't count, then I will disagree with that assertion. I don't think it's helpful and might even be harmful because it means that you think progress doesn't count as anything. If you believe that, then why even stop at 10, you may as well go all the way up to 30, right? [/quote]

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