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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it would be a lie to say you haven’t had a drink in a month.  The fact that you feel a need to lie about it your drinking is a red flag, even if you managed that one drink without obvious issues [/quote]

It's this kind of black and white thinking that discourages people.

Unlike the OP, I had/have a drinking problem. I can't tell you what a relief it was when I was trying to go alcohol free to be told if I cut back to 10 drinks a week vs. 30 drinks a week that I shouldn't discount that because it was progress. Not my goal, but progress. And to keep coming back and working on the program I am on. The point is the learning. I'm on day 28 with no drinks at all now.

OP, what is your goal? Is it to rarely drink? Only on special occasions? Two a week? Or none? I'd frame your behavior around your goal. And your goal can change over time. If nursing one beer in 30 days leads to a progression back to everyday drinking then you may need to reassess, but that doesn't sound like where you are at.

Kudos to you!

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I 100% with everything in your post, except the first line.  No one said that it wasn’t a big accomplishment for OP to limit herself to one drink.  Reading between the lines, I strongly suspect it was and think OP should be proud of it.  The only issue being take is with OP wanting to essentially say that one DEI k doesn’t count by claiming she hasn’t been drinking for that entire period.  Making exceptions and excuses for a drink here or there “doesn’t count” can be a slippery slope that takes OP right back to where she started, because there can also be an excuse for why something “doesn’t count.”  If OP’s goal is to keep her drinking to a reasonable level and OP did that, then OP should celebrate that accomplishment.  If the goal is to stop drinking entirely, OP can and should be proud that she is making progress.  Being honest with herself doesn’t undermine what she’s achieved, it reinforces it. [/quote]

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