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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just be gracious. And part of being gracious is not to judge. So many on DCUM try to find fault. Just say, "thank you."

Unless you have experience with the giver pressing you for proof that the gift was used as they wanted -- unless this is your experience, don't think the worst of people![/quote]

It is not polite to claim to give a gift and then try to control it. You can accept it, say thank you and ignore her wishes. I would not lie if she asks though. I would just say you used it for something else and if it upsets her then she can chose not to give again. You could also clarify. You could say "thanks for the generous gift. I don't need strawberries, but I know just what I'll use it for." If she says "You MUST get strawberries" then you politely decline the gift because you cannot fulfill the request. "no thank you" is perfectly appropriate and you don't enter a web of lies. Some people have very small worlds and will obsess over controlling a gift so much they will drive you nuts. It's not worth it for $20 to have to keep telling aunt Edna about those amazing strawberries. If "thank you" is not enough then it's not a gift, it's a string.[/quote]

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