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[quote=Anonymous]My 87-year old mother chose my younger, drug dependent brother for pretty much everything (POA, executor, medical proxy) even though he can't really handle his own affairs.   She even recently shared her financial account passwords with him which floored me.  He's reportedly said that he'll be broke by the time she dies, so I don't want to think where that's going to lead.  I couldn't help but be insulted because I'm the one with the finance degree, he barely graduated from high school. I'm the stable one with an intact family; he's been in jail, divorced, estranged from his kids, remarried someone he found on Facebook in another country, etc.  He's also managed to isolate our mother from her other family members (mainly his kids/her grandchildren who don't want anything more to do with him so she has disowned them as a result.) So she is missing out on having a relationship with her own grandchildren.  That said, I'm trying to look at the bright side -- if he's going to be the most favored child and possibly rip her off, he can take 100% of the responsibility for caring for her when she needs it.  I'll call once a week and visit on occasion. [/quote]

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