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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me, I remember as a kid feeling that the dynamics of really close girlfriends were suffocating both physically and emotionally. I think it might be from growing up with all brothers and male cousins. As an adult, I still find the expectations of intimacy from the “close friend” type women to be pretty demanding. I have made peace with the fact that I am doomed to have many un-close friends. It’s not so bad, because I do consider the friends I’ve had for 20 years to be close, just in a different sense. Perhaps all you need is to look at your friendships in a different light? Comparison is the thief of joy, after all.[/quote] I agree. I grew up with just brothers and several of the women I've been friends with expected me to drop things and run to them when I could not. I had a serious job and worked lots of hours trying to move up the ladder just a smidge. Most women had to work twice as much as the guys to get anywhere at work and I had friends who weren't sympathetic or didn't understand that. Too many women and even boyfriends expected hour long phone conversations. I could not be that person who talked every day or had constant long conversations. I was often exhausted from work and would feel stressed by the expectations of some of my friends. I have a child with sns and dealing with that was so hard and dealing with friends who had no clue was worse. I dropped a lot of friends through my kid's early school years. Now throw in politics and it's even harder. Op I don't think there is anything wrong with you. If you have a more professional job, I think it is just different. Good luck. [/quote]
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