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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ha! For one of my kids, if I push her to do something, she typically will do the opposite. All her motivation to do something exits her body. What she needs to hear is "you have come so far, you are just fine no matter what you achieve, I am so proud of you."

This is in part because she is absolutely brilliant and so talented, and when somebody sees this, they say things like "you have so much potential, you can go so far, if you work hard someday you will become something great." That is a lot of pressure and can get overwhelming for her. From me, her mom, she needs something different. [/quote]

What about your other kid?

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He does best with some pushing. :)

He responds to it well (it doesn’t kill his motivation to do it), and asking him to do something eventually leads to him doing it on his own. He’s only 10 though so we will see how things go.

Let me tell you, it was not easy to figure this out. I was too pushy with my first kid at the beginning, and then not pushy enough with my second because of what happened with my first. Yet another reminder that parenting isn’t one size fits all. [/quote]

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