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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is WAY more complicated than that.  You don't push.  You build internal motivation.   And that is so much harder than "pushing."    It includes letting them fail.  Often.  Which I think is anathema in the "push your kid" crowd. [/quote]

+1.  This.[/quote]
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There is encouraging and supporting your kid to develop their skills and talents, but "pushing" them to constantly improve and achieve can end up replacing internal motivation with external motivation, and a sense that they require a lot of "pushing" to do anything or that they (or their parents) can't handle failure. [/quote]

Our lives, and DCs performance, improved dramatically overall once I figured out how to support and encourage without pushing. Sure there were missteps and even some massive failures in the beginning, but now I’ve got a kid who is learning to self motivate and who will be well prepared to go off to college where she’ll have no choice but to succeed or fail on her own.  [/quote]

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