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[quote=Anonymous]Whatever she sends them, food or otherwise, you are not automatically entitled to. I’m an emotional eater as well, but I don’t go around eating other people’s food. Presumably (hopefully), if you’ve worked some place with a shared refrigerator, you don’t raid other people’s lunches. Don’t raid your kids candy.  Whether you’re able to change your mother’s habits, Halloween is coming up and this will still be an issue.

If your mom is sending you candy, I think you can absolutely ask her to stop, maybe switch to something else (nuts, fruit baskets, teas, books, craft supplies, notepads, etc. - whatever your preferred treat would be)

If you feel the candy is a problem for your kids, then I think you’re fully entitled as a parent to ask her to stop, suggest alternatives, and if necessary dispose of the candy. If the only problem with her sending them candy is your lack of self-control (which I also have problems with), then I think it’s unfair to both your mom and kids to stop something that brings them joy because it makes you uncomfortable.  I understand binging on all the food I have in the house, but I recognize that it’s not all mine. You might try physically separating it, letting the kids keep it in their rooms or in an out of the way drawer, shelf, or box, that is for THEIR treats (or even stuff in general) that you just avoid.

I do sympathize. I’m 30 pounds overweight (down from 45) and am just finishing off a bag of fried onions that I started last night after finishing a bag of candy. I should probably follow your example and avoid bringing junk home. You’re already ahead of me. You just need to reclassify available food from all food within the house to all food not claimed by others within the house. The candy is theirs, so it is no more an available option than the food in the neighbor’s kitchen - it’s not yours to even consider. [/quote]

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