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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Queer/lesbian. I really try not to judge-the big tent of a wide variety of people who identify as queer keeps us all safer and who am I to say who people feel themselves to be. And, I do judge a little bit-a couple of white women who got really involved in progressive politics and realized that they were queer and disabled. Cynically, I think they were uncomfortable being straight and white on that political scene and needed to find a minoritized identity or two. And male/female couples who are only queer because they hook up with women as a third, not my thing at all, but as long as it's all consensual they aren't hurting anyone.[/quote]

I think this is spot-on -- I don't question people's self-identification as queer (it can be complicated -- I know plenty of people who present to the world as cis and/or straight whose private identity is genderqueer or bi/pan in a hetero relationship) but I do think being straight/cis/white in an activist space can push people for whom labels can be flexible (e.g. someone in a hetero relationship who has experienced same sex attraction in the past could embrace either straight or bi) to choose the queerer label to feel less like they are the oppressor.  As long as they aren't talking loudly over people I don't mind.[/quote]

So if grown adults find it uncomfortable to present to the world as cis, it stands to reason that children and teens will too. Schools have become activist environments, and this is a great reason why they should not be.[/quote]

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