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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you give me some examples where your interactions with coworkers would demonstrate that you are very anxious? I honestly don't know what that would look like. I mean this sincerely. If I asked you "How is Project X going?" or "Hey, did you see there are brownies in the lunch room?" how would you reply?[/quote]

I’ll answer your questions like this:

1) My project is going fine, just has some issues in x, y, but overall I’m doing ok

2) No, I didn’t see any.

My interactions demonstrate I’m very anxious in the sense that I never make jokes, engage in banter, small talk, etc. I don’t speak about my interests, personal life, hobbies, where I went on weekend, etc, whilst they openly discuss these things with each other. My interactions with my coworkers is strictly work related matters. I don’t initiate any conversations either. I feel uncomfortable eating in front of them. I’m very passive and don’t have a voice. I usually assist them with their tasks, for example like bringing printed papers, stapling them, etc. I frequently seem on edge, my face becomes red, tense, voice so low, etc. I don’t open up easily and keep to myself. I guess a few colleagues picked up on this hence them telling my boss I’m very anxious.[/quote]

I'll be honest, you have a wonderfully clear sense of your self and your situation, and while it's a cliche, that's half the battle. So the decision comes down to would you rather address your social anxiety so that you can feel more comfortable with small talk and making conversation with friendly acquaintances, or would you rather find a remote job where you are not expected to be a part of the social group?

You can't change the culture of this office, so hoping they change their expectations is futile.

You know you have these anxious qualities like being uncomfortable eating in front of them and seeming like you're on edge. Do you want to change that?

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