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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do any of you worry about old age and being by yourself? Not saying that your kids will 100% be there for you but in the majority of instances your kids will help.

My dad has an aunt and uncle who never had any kids. He is now taking care of them since they are in their late 80s/early 90s and having health issues. Not sure what would have happened if he didn't step up.

My mom is one of 4 kids and they all helped with their aging parents.

We have family friends who never had kids and the wife sort of just went batty.  She never worked (even though she never had kids) and is just super odd like she lost direction in her life.  [/quote]

I am one of the PPs who never wanted kids, and doesn't have them - and yes, I do worry about old age. Not so much the being by myself part (though that would be terrible). I am married to someone I love, and we have each other - and if gd forbid a hundred million times I were to lose him, I like to think I would still find a companion. Of course nothing is guaranteed.

But yes, having adult children looks nice to me. Having grandkids. My mother has a lot of health problems and I do a lot of research and advocacy for her, and yes it worries me that no one will do that for me. (My husband, who is brilliant, is not good at advocacy. He wouldn't know how to research rehab options if it were needed, for example, or to ask a doctor to try out other treatment options besides the one that was presented to him.)

So yeah. I worry about later in life stuff. But I didn't want to have kids just to hedge against that. I made my tradeoffs.[/quote]

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