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[quote=Anonymous]I think this is a situation where you need to change your feelings/reaction instead of changing his behavior. His behavior could be viewed innocuously if you just assume he's blurting it out thinking you might know off the top of your head. So instead of feeling stressed and responsible, just let.it.go. "I don't know hon" and then forget about it. Let him figure it out.

Basically I think the key to a successful marriage is giving the benefit of the doubt and grace as much as you can. Assume he just thought you'd know, not that he's asking you to get up and peek in the fridge.

And if it persists after that, then you can negotiate how you want things to be done. My husband used to ask me questions he knew I didn't know the answer to about pop culture, and I did point out that it seemed like he was treating me like Siri and asking me to look stuff up when he could do it himself. And he laughed and said, oops, yes, I don't know why I do that. So he's learned to just Google his own questions. But IMO the key is to navigate these situations without building up resentment. If you need to, say your piece. Otherwise, assume positive intentions and move on.[/quote]

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