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[quote=Anonymous]How to drop the rope: Train yourself to pause when he’s done asking. Then stop answering these inane questions. Clearly he keeps doing it because it’s working.

What did the email say? 
I don’t know.

What time did Larla wake up from her nap?
I don’t know.

Is there milk in the fridge? 
I don’t know.

You:Have you ever asked him why he’s doing this? “Bob, in the last two days, you’ve asked me about things that you are perfectly capable of figuring out. (Give examples) Why are you doing that?
Him: It’s just faster and easier. 
You: So you believe that on top of the responsibilities I have at work and here with our children, it’s also my responsibility to make your life easier by answering questions and doing tasks you’re perfectly capable of. Do I have that correct? 
Him: Well, why wouldn’t you want to make things easier. I’m working hard, too. 
You: We are both working hard. And there are plenty of ways I do try to make your life easier. This cannot be one of them. So from now on, my response will be a simple “I don’t know.” I trust that you are more than capable enough of figuring it out. [/quote]

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