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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Thought this was about a bumper sticker at first.[/quote]

me too! Like, "honk if your husband loves you" or something.

Anyway, OP, there is a lot of gray area here. Did he tell you he didnt love you? Because I dont think there's an easy way of coming back from that and it sounds ,to me, like someone setting up the future or boundaries around intimacy.

If, on the other hand you suspect (for various reasons) you are not the love of his life (there's someone else or he just doesn't love you) then that is painful, but also more of a complex issue. Many marriages involve some sort of compromise--very rarely do people admit this, even to themselves. Many married people who were good partners, but they realize they dont lust after them or have a kind of exciting connection they have had with others or might have with others in the future.  Others marry in a rush (fertility pressure) or a daze or just young and as they grow older they realize there are some fundamental differences in values, or intellectual outlooks or interests that are perhaps not significant enough to end things (esp if kids in the picture) but large enough to raise the spectre that perhaps they would be happier/more in love/more fulfilled with someone else. And then there are people always chasing an impossible high/ego boost/whatever and no one who istheir day in day out spouse will ever be exciting enough.

The question is where your spouse (or you) fall on this spectrum, where did you start out, and what to do about it.

and fwiw, I can sort of empathize. I think my spouse loves me, and I love them, as partners and as a team. But I am under no illusion they are my soulmate and I dont think our sex life is really fulfiling for either of us, but I also think we're committed enough to a stable family and friendship to mess things up by chasing  a crush. [/quote]

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