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[quote=Anonymous]Ugh, do we have the same MIL?

When I was pregnant with my second, I developed dysautonomia and unable to take care of my toddler. I had MIL, step-MIL, and a babysitter lined up to help me in the mornings. Everyone else was on time and actually helpful, but MIL showed up half an hour late one week, then an hour the next, until finally she was texting me at 11:30 asking if I wanted to go out to lunch with her. Yes MIL, I can't stand up and take care of my toddler, but let's definitely have a ladies lunch, that's just as helpful as 3 hours of childcare.  :roll:

Now my kids are older so there's nothing she can do to help that they can't do themselves. She's still flaky and cancels at least half of the visits she arranges. For some reason she thinks she needs to see them between getting home from school (middle and elementary) and DH coming home from work, which is not a large window. I'd rather we just invite her over for dinner than take up the one afternoon the kids don't have an activity with MIL maybe arriving, or not.

Definitely agree that you shouldn't go out of your way to accommodate someone so flaky. Go about your normal day and if she shows up, then you can circle back home. Tell her the kids want to see this movie playing at 1, so she'll have to leave for the theater at 12:30. Or switch her to dinner with the whole family so your DH can help too. If she complains to DH, just let that roll off your back. You're doing your best and she's making your life harder. TBH I'd just be out of effs to give. [/quote]

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