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[quote=Anonymous]My husband did not "forbid me" from buying furniture but this was definitely an issue early in our relationship. He was still very much in the mode that if we could technically furnish our apartment with stuff he found on the street, we did not need to buy anything, and certainly not anything high quality that might actually last, be comfortable, or work properly.

I just had to work on him. First I argued with him about why furnishing our home with decent furniture was an investment in our own comfort and happiness. One thing that helped with this is that he developed back problems he was convinced were related to our mattress. I said "oh, then we should buy a new mattress." Which we did, with him freaking out the whole time about how much mattresses cost. But each time he tried to cheap out, I asked "What is the point in spending $400 on a mattress that will hurt your back? Isn't it worth it to spend $900 or $1000 on a good quality mattress that will be comfortable? You sleep on it every night." That was the beginning of him starting to understand the value in spending money (which we could absolutely afford) on furniture.

I also just had to acclimate him to the cost of furniture so that he understood that when I suggested we buy a lamp for $150, I was actually being frugal. He had this childish idea that all furniture should cost less than $100 because he'd only ever shopped at IKEA. Once he understood the actual range of costs for furniture, and saw what furniture that you didn't have to assemble and that wasn't made of composite materials looked like, he became more open to buying higher quality things.[/quote]

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