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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't people say please or thank you?  I just gave away many very nice, high interest items in this group and I didn't get a single please or thank you.  People said "interested" (then they were not in the pms), "I'll take it!"or, "next" but not a single please or even request as to why they should receive the item. After people picked up the items they didn't say thank you either. I'm relatively new to these groups so is that normal? [/quote]

There's no enforcement and the gifter can choose based on other criteria, but proper etiquette in my BNG is to select the recipient by random drawing of interested recipients after letting the post simmer for a while, not by level of detail in the response to the offer.  Begging or listing out why you deserve it more than others is somewhere between unnecessary and bad form.  What you're asking for (explanation as to why they should receive the item) disadvantages people who don't speak English as a first language, for example.

As to thank you after - about 75% of my recipients will respond to me privately on a DM saying "got it, thanks!" after they get whatever it is off my porch.  Not necessary, and more of a "transaction concluded" than heartfelt gratitude.  Which is fine.  I have gotten things home and then realized that the kids floor puzzle is missing two pieces or something, so I'm not gushing thank you at pickup either.  Maybe 1% of all posts will get a separate "gratitude post" where the recipient shows the item in use at their house and explains why it's awesome.  Extreme outlier.[/quote]

Yes I was giving away cat food once and a woman scolded me on my post for not taking it to a shelter.  Are you willing to drive it for me?  I don't care who eats it as long as it gets ate.  Well, she was kicked out of the group for that.  [/quote]

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