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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP if this seems like a burden to you, you might be stretched too thin. Nobody has a perfect family. A well-meaning, perhaps bored aunt who sends too many gift texts is not high on the list of problems that come with being in a family. This should be mildly annoying but very manageable. If it feels like you can’t deal, you may be too busy. [/quote]

Said somebody who does not understand the way dysfunctional people operate. Most likely the aunts behavior is a SYMPTOM of a whole lot of crazy. If you understand how dysfunction works you understand the little thing is often just another example a large gaping issue like the person is....controlling or manipulative or dramatic and for whatever reason it's the annoying barrage of texts that sends us into frustration when really it's a sign of a person who is just a jerk.[b] Gifts are the PERFECT way to let out one's crazy and be passive aggressive, because it's a giiiiiiift, everyone should be gracious and kind about gifts? How could someone who gives gifts be anything but generous?[/b][/quote]

This is my MIL. She is controlling and passive aggressive about everything. She will not ever get a person the specific thing they want. She must find a thing that is of her choosing and BETTER (according to her) than what the recipient wants. But her version of better is always something awful from JC Penney. Example - she harasses me about getting me a sweater. I send options from Target, J Crew Factory etc (so nothing expensive). I receive a sweater from JC Penney. Recent example: I sent this link - https://factory.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/sweaters/pullovers/cable-crewneck-sweater/BG834?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=chrome-green&colorProductCode=BG834

and received this item - https://www.jcpenney.com/p/alfred-dunner-peachy-keen-womens-round-neck-embellished-3-4-sleeve-striped-pullover-sweater/ppr5008137980?pTmplType=regular&deptId=dept20000013&catId=cat100210006&urlState=%2Fg%2Fwomen%2Ftops%3Fitem_type%3Dpullover%2Bsweaters%26id%3Dcat100210006&page=2&productGridView=medium&badge=petite

She told me that she wanted to get me something more exciting. Straight to the donate pile. When I don't wear the hideous items she gifts to me, there are lots of sad faces and moping around about how no one appreciates how much she cares about everyone.[/quote]

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