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[quote=Anonymous]What does your wife think about all this? I wouldn't to right to "ask her to stop" but I would definitely open the conversation. See how she feels about it. It's possible that she wants to continue to breastfeed, but feels pressure from you and/or the nanny and/or society to stop, which would be very different than if she wants to stop, but then feels guilty in the moment with your daughter screaming a crying.

If it's the former, and she wants to continue, then it becomes a discussion of how long, and how to make things more manageable for everyone. And I think it's reasonable in this discussion, to point out that you think it might be better for your family for her to wean. But you really, really want to listen here and get to the bottom of how she's feeling and what she wants, and then you can combine that with what you want, and what's working, and what's not to come up with a plan. This will be more difficult, I think.

The easier option is if she wants to stop but feels guilty in the moment. Because then, you can offer to help her! And this is just a logistical/discipline problem. I think if that's the case, you agree on a plan (does she want a slow wean, or to just end everything, or what). For example, you guys could decide that for now, nursing is only morning, pre-nap, and at bedtime. Then, your wife works from a coffee shop for a week or two and only comes home for the pre-nap nurse, until the habit is established.

But all of this starts with a conversation with your wife about how she feels. [/quote]

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