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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, but as a parent, I'm liable (morally, don't know about legally) for any obligations my child fails to meet.  If my kid doesn't return a library book or breaks a window with a baseball, then it's my responsibility to make sure the debt is paid and then take steps to make sure my kid takes responsibility for it.

If my son has a baby then that baby needs to be taken care of.  Yes, my son needs to get a job, and meet his obligation, but if for some reason, such as unemployment, that isn't happening then it's my responsibility to make sure that the baby still has a safe place to sleep, and food and diapers.  [b]I can't let that responsibility fall to someone else, such as the child's mother[/b], or her parents, or the state.  Now, my son may be on the hook to pay me back, but that's between me and him.  His obligation to the child must still be met. [/quote]

Did you just say that your son's child would be more your responsibility than the responsibility of its own mother? Or other grandparents? Glad you are not my MIL.[/quote]

Oh, please, I think you know what she meant, even if the phrasing wasn't perfect-- she clearly meant 100% of that responsibility.

OP, your question just made me sad. I know few of us want to see our minor child have a child of their own before they have a secure job, family, and life, but I've always been open-mouthed shocked at the grandparents-to-be who can't muster up an ounce of happiness at the prospect of a new life, their grandchild. I say this as the granddaughter of a woman who urged my mom to get an abortion when she was unmarried and pregnant. Unfortunately, it is how you parent in these moments that will determine how your children (and grandchildren) remember you, even if it's something you didn't choose and therefore don't feel like you should be judged by.

The legal answer to your question is "yes," until he turns 18.[/quote]

Bully for you and your mother.  She should have an abortion and learn from this HUGE mistake and not do the same thing twice.  If my daughter got pregnant, I would be livid, and I would take her to get an abortion.  Having a kid at 18, is a recipe for disaster and I've invested too much love, time, money for her to make a decision that will ruin her life.  [/quote]

And deny her the chance to love and nurture her own child? Don't you think forcing fer to kill her unborn baby will destroy both her and your relationship with her?[/quote]

She's 16 years old.  No, I don't think forcing her to ABORT a zygote will destroy her relationship with me.  I suppose if your daughter  a victim of incest or rape and impregated, you would be in favor of her having said child.[/quote]

I certainly would not be in favor of forcing my child to have an abortion if she was the victim of sexual abuse. I love my daughter too much to victimize her in that way. And besides, I think you know damn well that I was not referring to those type of circumstances.

It sounds like you think there is something magic about the age of 18 that means that then and only then can you feel love for an unborn child. How long did it take you to fall in love with your daughter after you found out you were pregnant?

Sounds like everything in your life is about you- including a life/lives that are not yours. Her life. Her body. Her choice. Or are you only pro-choice for everyone else-just not your daughter?[/quote]

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