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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is part of aging, OP. [/quote]

SHE'S IN HER 50S. NOT OLD. Conversation here is not weird or unusual  [/quote]

She's not in her 50s. She's in her 70s. Some random person she knows from church who I never met is in her 50s.

I am asking here because I want to be more patient and loving. I often do call when I'm folding laundry or doing something else. If I'm doing dishes I put the phone on mute so the plates clanging is not disruptive, and someone's it's literally 15 minutes before I need to unmute to add anything. She doesn't seem to listen if I try to share anything, or interrupts quickly to go back to get monologue.

I appreciate people reminding me to be kinder and appreciative. I'm trying and feel it in my heart. I guess I'm wondering, "how" to live it better? I ask questions about family history but those are passed over quickly to conversations about people I don't know or a recitation of every single organization that sent mail soliciting donations this year, that she's saved in a shoebox. Is this dementia? We have an in person visit coming up, and as a quiet introverted person, I need tips on how best to be a kind supportive daughter. Thanks for those who understood. That helps.[/quote]

70s isn't old either. Sorry. She isn't Hilary Clinton or Elizabeth Warren with political careers if that'swhat you are going for, but even they talk to their kids about. Sometimes the day to day sounds like this and your Mom talks to you like this because you don't provide any connection to her with your life: your friends, your kids, your hobbies. I'm 66. My daughter age 40 and I chat about:

Decorating, we share IG pages
Her friends  getting on Xanax or anti depressants,  and who's coming off ( lol), who is in therapy  and who needs to be.  ( I'm adding you  to this list...)
Everyone's kids and inlaws
Our family
Deaths and divorces
Articles of interest
Both of our weird and great neighbors
Parties we are  invited to 
Her work drama 
My weird friends and who went gray,  what trips they are going on, blah blah blah 
Our dogs
Food, lots of food. 
Yes, our laundry!

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