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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is part of aging, OP. [/quote]

SHE'S IN HER 50S. NOT OLD. Conversation here is not weird or unusual  [/quote]

She's not in her 50s. She's in her 70s. Some random person she knows from church who I never met is in her 50s.

I am asking here because I want to be more patient and loving. I often do call when I'm folding laundry or doing something else. If I'm doing dishes I put the phone on mute so the plates clanging is not disruptive, and someone's it's literally 15 minutes before I need to unmute to add anything. She doesn't seem to listen if I try to share anything, or interrupts quickly to go back to get monologue.

I appreciate people reminding me to be kinder and appreciative. I'm trying and feel it in my heart. I guess I'm wondering, "how" to live it better? I ask questions about family history but those are passed over quickly to conversations about people I don't know or a recitation of every single organization that sent mail soliciting donations this year, that she's saved in a shoebox. Is this dementia? We have an in person visit coming up, and as a quiet introverted person, I need tips on how best to be a kind supportive daughter. Thanks for those who understood. That helps.[/quote]

I mean this is it, OP.  This is where your mom is.  This isn't really a dialogue now.  Just let her get everything out. Part of the problem seems to be that you are expecting something different.  Think of her like a child or someone whose brain is no longer 100% functional.  You may feel softer.

As an aside, I am fully in the count your blessings camp.  I love when my mom goes on about the neighbors.  Less time to criticize me![/quote]

Her brain in no longer functional?  Because  she talks  about  her friends? What on earth is wrong with everyone here?  Just stop...you all sound like narcissistic idiots. [/quote]

I would say that the person who talks for 15 straight minutes, interrupts the other person who tries to speak, doesn't listen to the other person's contribution, and fails to ask anything about her adult daughter who is on the phone could be the narcissist. Or an old person whose gray matter is going. [/quote]

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