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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is part of aging, OP. [/quote]

SHE'S IN HER 50S. NOT OLD. Conversation here is not weird or unusual  [/quote]

She's not in her 50s. She's in her 70s. Some random person she knows from church who I never met is in her 50s.

I am asking here because I want to be more patient and loving. I often do call when I'm folding laundry or doing something else. If I'm doing dishes I put the phone on mute so the plates clanging is not disruptive, and someone's it's literally 15 minutes before I need to unmute to add anything. She doesn't seem to listen if I try to share anything, or interrupts quickly to go back to get monologue.

I appreciate people reminding me to be kinder and appreciative. I'm trying and feel it in my heart. I guess I'm wondering, "how" to live it better? I ask questions about family history but those are passed over quickly to conversations about people I don't know or a recitation of every single organization that sent mail soliciting donations this year, that she's saved in a shoebox. Is this dementia? We have an in person visit coming up, and as a quiet introverted person, I need tips on how best to be a kind supportive daughter. Thanks for those who understood. That helps.[/quote]

I mean this is it, OP.  This is where your mom is.  This isn't really a dialogue now.  Just let her get everything out. Part of the problem seems to be that you are expecting something different.  Think of her like a child or someone whose brain is no longer 100% functional.  You may feel softer.

As an aside, I am fully in the count your blessings camp.  I love when my mom goes on about the neighbors.  Less time to criticize me![/quote]

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