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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is she into?

Consequences we use for my 6 and 9 yo DDs (because usually they are getting into trouble together) - loss of screen time (they get very little) or treats. Length of time depends on severity of the crime, but usually it’s 2-4 days.

Consequences for just my 6 yo: she loses her jewelry/tiara/princess dresses that she insists are part of her regular wardrobe. So it’ll be like no tiara for three days. Or whatever.

We do not take away bedtime stories, family time, or special items (like prized stuffed animals) - anything that is a comfort item is sacred.

Also… off topic, but perhaps relevant. One of the things that drives me most nuts about my kids - and causes me to lose patience with them - is just *stuff* *everywhere.* So I took a big plastic bin and now anything out of place goes in the bin. They have to empty it every night. Whatever is left in the bin at bedtime is mine for a week. (I’ve very cute tiara collection going.) Keeps me from going insane and having to give punishments. [/quote]

The bin is a good idea! We somehow have *stuff* under control right now (famous last words!) but I’m going to remember that idea because I know it won’t always be this way!

I hate taking away bedtime stories almost as much as I hate having to hold her down to brush her teeth. But at 6 there is no reason for her to still show that kind of defiance at bedtime (and she rarely does - tonight she did), so there has to be a consequence.

And before someone jumps all over me on that - she has never been a kid who you can make a game out of it or get her to laugh and then will cooperate. Even when she was little she’d laugh with her hand clamped over her mouth so you can’t get the toothbrush in. Or she’ll want to make her own game out of it to guess the password, but then will not give a hint and you can go on guessing forever and never get it right. She’s a tough cookie. My 3yo is totally different. On the rare occasions he doesn’t want to cooperate I just make a funny toothbrush voice and he laughs and we brush teeth. My DD was never like that. Tonight she refused to brush her teeth, and refused to let me brush her teeth, I could not turn her around with a joke, I warned her she would lose books and she still didn’t cooperate, and then I held her and brushed her teeth for her. We have been consistent about this for 4 years. [/quote]

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