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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh. Unequivocally yes. I try not to be resentful, but I think they did a really crappy job as parents. Both of DH’s parents are alcoholics. DH went away to college and fell off a ledge into alcoholism. It look him 2 treatment centers and living in a sober living house to get his life together. He said college environment would never work if he wanted to stay sober, so he got a skilled trade license. That forever changed the course of his life.

Both parents simultaneously ignored him and beat him - belts, wooden spoons. The beatings made him think that something must really be wrong with him if his parents wanted to hurt him so badly. This lead to low self esteem, and more addiction for him - gambled until he had to declare bankruptcy.

FIL was an untreated sex addict that had repeated affairs on his mom and encouraged DH to have sex as a teen. DH developed a sex addiction as an adult that almost ruined his life - think multiple prostitutes a night, multiple long term affair partners throughout the country.

DH is now sober. He has been through so much therapy to help him heal from all the childhood trauma. I want to gag when he praises his mom for her sobriety and speaks fondly of his deceased father. He’ll say - I have forgiven, maybe you can, too. [/quote]

You yourself sound like a huge mess. Did he get down on bended knee when he was 14 and you were 12, Romeo and Juliet of the DMV? If you knew how he was treated, you were Captain Save-a-Bro yourself and yet you married, procreated, and resent your husband moving on emotionally from pure anger.[/quote]

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