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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son kind of had this - incredibly smart (I say that not in a bragging way) but no skills in connecting with kids his own age.  He wanted to only talk to adults because they indulged him, older kids who academics wise he could keep up with had no interest in him bc he had the social skills of a 3yo (he was in a 3-5 classroom) and he had no interest in 3yo because he couldn't figure out how to relate to them.

His teachers pretty much had to force him to learn that skill.  Anytime he tried to chat up a teacher, they'd say he need to go talk to a friend for 5min first or invite a friend to play.  He struggled with it because he hated being rejected by them for being a little bit of a nerdy weirdo, but learned to socially be normal for his age which has served him well.  Nothing was "wrong" with him per say, he just had to learn how to socially interact with peers versus just trying to hang with people who would indulge his endless random space and dinasaur facts[/quote]

I think this is a really good point. Often we think little kids who are better with adults=too social advanced for kids their age, but it's actually that adults are much more forgiving of kids with poor social skills than their peers are.[/quote]

PP here - yeah that was such a good learning for us through all this.  He also had behavior problems because he'd get so frustrated that he couldn't hang out with the 5 year olds who he viewed as his peers (b/c intelligence wise he could do what they were doing and talk to them about things they were interested in) but social skills wise he was a 3 year old and an immature one at that.  B/c he could be so charming with adults (clever, interesting questions, pick up on phrasing of things etc) we viewed him as so advance and were blind to the fact that he had a real weakness in peer social skills[/quote]

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